Shy Introverted Misfit?
Do you consider yourself a shy introverted misfit, awkward, or sympathetic to their cause keep reading…
Are you the kind of person who thinks: “the book was better than the movie,” keep reading…
Have you’ve ever left a bar, party, or (insert other social setting) because it was crowded, keep reading…
If you’ve gotten this far, I want to get to know you.
Stop hiding who you are. Own it.
We live in a country that favors extroverts and we are constantly pressured to “perform.” We can do it in short bursts, but isn’t it exhausting? Wouldn’t it be nice to stop trying to be something you’re not? You can pay a lot of money to go to a three day seminar to learn how to become an extrovert… but it won’t make you happy. If you’ve tried that, you know that it only makes you feel worse. In fact, it can make you sick.
I’m not interested in fixing you… because you’re not broken.
You see, I enjoy helping people who feel left out and struggle to find their place in the world. I want to help you find ways to take these personality attributes (that everyone tells you are a liability) and tap into their power. Why? because I’m like you. You may not believe it because I try to project a confident, self-assured persona. Don’t let it fool you. I’m shy and always feel like I’m one step away from failure.
I’m looking for people who believe a simple idea.
We live in a time of profound anti-intellectualism. But I believe that the world needs our talents, our rationality, our introspection, our empathy, and our ability to see a better future. I believe we should build our strengths, and learn to accept our weaknesses because by making ourselves better, we make the world better.
If you believe that, keep reading.
I hate networking.
As an entrepreneur and creative person, I know I have to meet people, but it feels so phony… so out-of-my-comfort-zone. What do I do? I believe that people like us have a lot to offer. We spend a fair amount of time with our ideas as companions. We like to think about things. How is that bad? I DON”T believe that we need to “overcome” our “personality flaws.” (Quite the contrary, I think the very things that get us labelled as outsiders, are our strengths.) We are dangerous because we question authority, traditions, and the status quo.
Extroverts try to overshadow us and steal the thunder. They tend to seem loud and irrational. But we don’t have to compete with them for the spotlight. That’s not our path. The powers-that-be want us to follow the extrovert’s path because they know we’ll be at a disadvantage. Remember, we’re dangerous to the status quo, so they want to put barriers in our way. If you try to become an extrovert or emulate their story of success, you will fail because you won’t be authentic to who you really are.
This is the program for people who are quiet, introspective, and private.
I have developed a unique Correspondence Course for people like us. Why this format? Two reasons:
- Okay, so call me a geek. It’s totally retro and cool to get snailmail. (click here to learn more about the joys of snailmail)
- We like to work independently. We like to reflect. When you receive an old-fashioned letter, you can take your time with it. You can underline things, make notes, set it aside, think about it. A letter is a comfortable way to assemble your thoughts and really dig deep into what you want to communicate. For me, I like doodling and drawing when I write, and paper allows me to do that. It helps me keep organized. Don’t get me wrong–email is great, but there is just something about the feel of the paper, even if the letter is typed and printed from a computer, that makes it more real.
You don’t have to go to a noisy seminar and tell your secrets to strangers.
So, how does it work? You either send me a letter (see address below) or complete the on-line form (also below). In return, I send you an introductory snail mail letter to get things rolling. When you receive the letter, you can choose to toss it in the trash and forget about the impulse that led you to this point. Or, if you want to continue, write me back (snail mail) and we’ll go from there.
The “Year of the Phoenix” Correspondence Course
I’ll be your collaborator and business partner who will act as a sounding-board for your ideas. I’ll nudge you in the direction you want to g
o. As you well know, you have to take this journey yourself. You have to get dirty, get hurt maybe, get well, get over it… etc, I’ll help you be accountable. I’ll help you to focus, create some plans, and apply structure in order to make things happen. There’s nothing canned or pre-packaged here. This is more like consulting for your own guerrilla movement.
A person who feels like they are a shy introverted misfit, but don’t want to become an extrovert
Be on the path to independence (as you define it)
What will you be able to do:
Understand your values and how to you use them to make decisions that put you in control of your life.
Quarter 1. Finding your Individuality:
- Identify Your Strengths
- Create a solid foundation
- Identify traps and learn to avoid them.
Quarter 2. Going Rogue:
- Create a plan
- Reduce stress by rethinking it as useful
- Be able to tweak plans as circumstances change
- Create benchmarks and achieve them
- Understand your anxieties and fears better
- Execute your plans
Quarter 3. Achieving Authenticity:
- Learn to fail.
- Feel empowered
- Become healthier
- Find your inner courage
Quarter 4. Independence:
- Feel financial, emotional, and spiritual freedom
- Stay focused on your goals
- Recycle the process
(each quarter is 3 months)
What Makes me Qualified to Teach this Course?
I semi-retired before the age of 50. The job I’ve managed to negotiate at the local college allows me flexibility, autonomy, and ample time alone. I’ve written several books because I work part-time. But more importantly, I can pick up my daughter from school every day, I can volunteer for causes I support, take long walks, pursue my twin passions of art and writing, and still find a few minutes each week to plunk around on my guitar. And I don’t give a damn if I ever get rich.
How did I get here?
What’s the secret?
There’s no secret.
And there’s no single path, or “Ten steps to success,” or “7 habits.” You can’t just read a book or go to a seminar. This is not a get-rich program. I make No promises about making more money. I’m interested in helping you find your unique path to meaning, purpose, health, and happiness. I’ve always been an outsider, but I’ve managed to find a way to use that to my advantage.
Over the years, I’ve learned to live by the following principles: embrace my oddness, find a way to feed it instead of suppress it. Persist. Do what feels right. Take advice, but make my own decisions. My greatest teacher was my oldest daughter, who had significant disabilities and died before becoming an adult. (You can learn more about that journey by clicking here) She taught me many tough lessons:
- Bend instead of break
- Laugh loud
- Dare to dream
I’m interested in hearing what gets you excited and how you wish to devote more time to living, and less to working at things that don’t excite you. You may never be free of the latter, but I think we can knock it down enough to transform your life in a positive way. I sure have. Though I still think of myself as a shy introverted misfit, I no longer feel disadvantaged by it. I have reclaimed that description, embraced it, and used it to my advantage.
“The misfit’s myth: even at the moment of your failure, you are beautiful.” –Lydia Yuknavitch (TED 2016)
What does this service cost?
This is the shocking part. I’m such an outsider that I’m trying something new. A business model that would make MBA’s cringe and accountants pull out their hair. I’m taking some of my own advice and taking a huge risk.
I’m charging whatever you think is fair. That’s right. You determine the value of the service. If you think I’m full of crap… stop writing and I go away. However, if you feel I’m having a positive effect on your life, buy a book or some art, send me a check… only as long as the amount feels fair to you. you can send me a check monthly, with each letter you send, or at the end of the year. If you don’t find any value in this service, just cancel. You’ll be out nothing but a few stamps. I would normally charge $1000 per year for this course.
Why would I leave it open ended like this? Well, I figure a lot of people could benefit from my service, but don’t have the money right now. In that case, you pay me what you think it was worth once I help you get into a better situation. That’s real accountability.
I want to know about you. To get started, complete the form below or send me a real, honest to goodness letter at the address listed at the bottom of this page. Don’t forget to tell me about what gets you excited and your expectations from me.
No one’s going to make you listen to pounding dance music to get “pumped up.”
Several people have inquired about in-person seminars. Would you be interested in attending a half-day or whole-day seminar in Austin, Texas? I think it could be fun to get together with people who want a quieter, calmer place to hang-out and talk and share ideas around how people like us can find success in the extrovert dominated world. Let me know your thoughts on that. Now, I’d have to charge a traditional fee for that, so keep that in mind… food, coffee, rental of the hall, etc. But it could be fun to get together with a group of like-minded folks who get it.
Are you ready to start the conversation?
Write me at:
PO BOX 200512
Austin, TX 78720
Or complete the on-line form above. It’s up to you.
Shy Introverted Misfit… so what? It is your strength, not your weakness.
Curious about why I use the symbol of the Phoenix? See related blog post: Phoenix Origin.
Legal Disclaimer: I am not a lawyer, accountant, doctor, psychologist, financial planner, game show host, or any other sundry professional who dispenses advice that should supplant professional council. You should always seek professional advice regarding money and health (mental and physical). I shouldn’t be your sole source of information… I’m a guy on the internet, after all.